On CBC just now I found out from a cat expert that a cat gets nervous, high-strung, and stressed out from being indoors all the time. I have an indoor cat. Now, after hearing that I’m causing her to be upset, I feel guilty.
But then, I found out that some people take their cats out on leashes, and I could do that, but what about the dogs? Most of the people on my road are dog walkers. Can you just imagine the kind of horrible catastrophe that would happen if my leashed cat ran into their leashed dog? But I want to be kind to my cat, and let her out with me on a leash.
Yours very truly,
Puzzled Puss Partisan
Yes. Neighbourhood dogs and their owners do make some kind of peace and will tolerate one another’s presence on the road. They become a neighbourhood pack. But I don’t know whether there is a dog in the world that will allow a strange cat to join the pack. At least, not in public
I can see it in my mind’s eye – you and a neighbour, approaching each other calmly on the ends of leashes attached to your respective pets. And then – uproar. You, clutching the cat to your breast, as the big monster on the totally inadequate leash lunges at you, trying to get at your beloved Puss, and its owner grinning at you in sadistic satisfaction. So what to do?
Try diplomacy first. Call around and find out when would be a safe time to take your kitty out for a stroll, when the dogs are all indoors and you and your beloved can walk the roads clear of any nervousness.
Let me know what happens. I have a plan B in mind.
My husband and I play bridge with a few other couples on a regular basis. We’re all pretty new to Gabriola, so it was easy to find the time in our lives to become involved with these lovely people, who are also feeling their way into this community.
But now that we have found out a bit more about what is going on in Gabriola, we are getting very busy and barely have time to eat. It’s as if we never retired. I’d like to be able to say no to the three nights a week bridge playing, but I’m afraid I would hurt the other couples’ feelings if I suggested we not meet so frequently.
Busy new friend.
Could you all go on a bridge cruise together? If you play your cards right, some all-absorbing extramarital relationships are bound to bloom in the hothouse of an enclosed and wine-soaked gathering, and the resultant drama and shift in bridge partners could go a long way to resolving your problem of too much togetherness. Better it be on board ship where you can leave it all behind.
For obvious reasons The Flying Shingle tries never to disagree with our Dear Gabby, but unfortunately sometimes we do.
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